To marry or not to marry

Today, I had a talk with my mom.

Hi, for those who don’t know me, I’m Daniela and I’m a catholic girl who wants to move in with her boyfriend. When we started thinking about that, I dropped out of catholic teaching since church thinks it’s a sin.

My family doesn’t like the idea of me moving in with him without marriage, they say it’s against everything I’ve been teaching about. I come from a huge family of the north of the country. My mom has 5 brothers, 4 sisters, and my dad has 3 sisters… So far everyone is married and there’s not a single divorce… You’re getting why they think marriage is the answer. On the other hand my boyfriend comes from a medium family from the south, he has 2 uncles divorced, one of them twice.
The difference between a northern family and a southern family is that my boyfriend’s family isn’t catholic. Some do believe in God, but won’t go to church often, others don’t even believe in anything and my boyfriend didn’t get baptized because of that. That doesn’t mean he does not support me or hates God, he just doesn’t believe in it. He still respects me.

Back to the topic…. I had a talk with my mom… She asked me if I would consider get a 25€ wedding on church. Just… having the blessing and papers signed and be done with.

Why would I? It’s not the kind of wedding I want, nor the point of us moving together, nor I see anything wrong with it. If church accepts me dating a guy for 6 years and not being a virgin why would it care if I moved in with him and marrying later on? What difference does it make?

Why would a church not support me when I move in with the person I love and support me after I marry the same person? Is it the same if I would marry on paper with one person and later on marry ANOTHER person on church? Which is more sinful?

We ain’t gonna live together because it’s easier to get in bed… We are because we wanna commit, we wanna learn each other and then be sure if this is what we really want. I wanna marry the person who is gonna make me happy, I’m not marrying my community. Many marry because of those rules and are miserable later. It’s normal to be naive when you don’t have much examples on your family.

Times change, I’m not a woman from the bible. I work, I’m successful, independent, I was not made to be in the kitchen nor I know if I wanna grow a family

This isn’t even a God’s law… This is a pope’s one… And there’s a lot of things I think it’s wrong on our religion like homosexual couples being judge because they can’t procreate when a wife who can’t reproduce is not, or a wife who does not want to reproduce. Love is love, and I’m sharing it the true way. I didn’t do anything against God’s rules so I see nothing wrong with moving in with him. And I might be wrong or they might be wrong but we will only know that when we’re dead and gone. So I’m gonna do what my conscience tells me.

I have only one life, and I’m gonna be sure I’m happy!!

 

My name is Daniella and I kick and bite.

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Beauty Products Update

So, awhile ago I made 2 posts about the beauty products that I use and my KIKO cosmetics collection. Since then, more stuff has been added and I felt the need to update on the new stuff I’m using, or stuff I stopped using.
I’ve never talked about my hair products. I really love my hair and I’ve always been very careful with it. I wear it long and my hair is kinda curly, basically I can do whatever I want with my hair. If I want a more curly hair, I can do it by just not brushing it too much, if I want to straighten it, it stays on, so I’m always changing my hair day to day.
My hair is dyed brown red (my natural color is dark brown). I didn’t have to bleach it or anything, bleach makes the hair dehydrated and that is what I always avoid because I want it to grow longer and longer, not having to cut it because I fucked it up. So here’s the products that make my hair smooth, with volume, and hydrated during the year.

Now, the new stuff I’ve been using for my face:

I changed my face moisturizer, not because the other didn’t work, but it was out of stock and I needed a replacement. This one is even better with my face. The same goes for the Mascara and the Highlighter.
I regret buying the KIKO lipstick. This one it really is a velvet matte like it says, but it come so easily, with one wipe. And the parts of the lip who gets wet faster, the color doesn’t stick, even with a hundred coats. The color wasn’t what I expected either.

New packaging:

 

My name is Daniella and I kick and bite

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Dark Humor and Religion

Today I come to realize I have a pretty dark humor… I joke about things that aren’t nice to be joked, I laugh about things that I shouldn’t laugh because I’m a christian and joking about someone who had died or about a Jesus in a parallel universe isn’t something I should do.
There must be respect to the religion. I demand respect of my believes. So why am I making fun of my believes? I’m kinda of lost because I don’t know if dark humor and religion should be connected.
I’m a happy person, I enjoy little things in life, and I’m always laughing. My religions believes in happiness and love. If we joke about something, is it sinful? We don’t mean to hurt anyone, we don’t mean to disbelief anything, we just mean to have a good laugh. So is it ok? We still are disrespecting tho.
What we are taught is that we are alive because of God, and we must live our lives for him… But the way I see God (everybody has their own mind of god) is that I should live my life WITH him. I think I should live my life like I own it, and do my choices, and always be with him present in that. So I talk to him, I go to church to listen to him… but I’m still… me… He doesn’t make me do something I don’t wanna do.
My thoughts are, as long as my intentions are good, he’s with me… Like a father is always there for their kids no matter what they choose to do.

Have a Dark Humor as long as you don’t hurt anybody.

30 Sinfully Hilarious Religious Jokes And Puns

 

Humans of New York – The Series

“Insanity to me means being able to make choices that are not harmful to the next person or individual. (…) Insanity is having a dollar knowing that is worth a hundred times, and not being able to use that money to its fullest. Insanity is being a young wanna grow up too fast. Insanity would be knowing where the gold is and not going to get it, knowing where the diamonds are and not going to get them (…). Insanity would be knowing what love is and not passing it on to the next friend, family member, loved one. Insanity would be having a gift and saying “ohh it’s not worth anything”, and then you find out that the gift was worth something and you spend the rest of your life trying to get it back, and then you find out that the gift that was given to you is life, and once you’ve kinda give your life away, it’s not easy trying to get it back (…)”

This is how Humans of New Yorker – The Series begins his first episode. The famous facebook page that shows a little piece of a person’s life as encounters this journalist on a street is given to us through a deep interview where we get to know that person’s thoughts and mind.
As we listen every story that comes up, we get wiser, we see reality, we acknowledge that individual that we do not know, but now it’s important to us for some reason. He’s not invisible anymore. Some people feel the urge to do something, to help others, or just to get to know more of the other. There’s a connection of both worlds, we can identify ourselves in them, the person we are, the person we will or would be.
I do appreciate all the work this journalist did just by listening to other individual and let them be visible to the world. We all pass our lives looking at the same people everyday, the mailman, the bartender, that lady across the street, that man who’s waiting for the bus… and sometimes we don’t even know their names. It’s important to communicate, create relations, or just acknowledge they are there, and you see them.
As Fernando Pessoa says:

“Nostalgia! I even feel it for people and things that were nothing to me, because time’s fleeing is for me an anguish, and life’s mystery is a torture. Faces I habitually see on my habitual streets – if I stop seeing them I become sad. And they were nothing to me, except perhaps the symbol of all of life”

 

Writing in day – pt1

What if

“What if it haven’t been this way? What if those three years past by, my dad had stayed in Portugal and I couldn’t go to college? What would have been? Nobody hires a woman without experience, without qualifications! If only they wouldn’t look only for the CV….
I have so much to give, so much to surprise. The opportunity,  that one, never comes. Maybe I could get to work and find a client here, a client there and create my own business, but my family is my competition too, already with experience in the area. I would never be better than my brother!
For much qualities, motivation and ambition that I have… The fear of not pleasing or not achieving hit me like an arrow and make me stop. Then comes the laziness, the waiting for something good to happen without afford, or other way to escape the reality of a country without room for dreams, without future the young, employment for no one. Would I had emigrated? And if so, where? A near place where the difference of cultures wouldn’t be bothering and I could have wings for my imagination. Spain! Next door! What would I have done? I don’t know, but I would have taken my lover with me so we could both have a life of our own and a future. We would always have hope we could get back to the place that saw us grow, where love was born. The will of studying would most probably come back and I would go to college anyways to take the degree that I love and there would be no regrets nor bitterness.
A destiny never has one way, till there we should always have our bags ready for adventure and get out wiser. Since I have someone by my side to support me, I would never give up. There will be always a “what if” and the story will repeat itself till the road come to its end, but never my time….”

My name is Daniella and I… kick and bite

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Reading Comments Eurovision

Eurovision 2017 had a taste of what portuguese good music sounds like. We have been participating for 53 years and it’s the first time we have passed the 6th place up. We have always stick to our native language to participate.

The song “Amar pelos dois” (Loving for both of us) by Salvador Sobral, written by his sister Luísa Sobral it’s about a girl who doesn’t love this boy anymore, and the boy sings for her to come back. He knows he can’t love alone, but he’s hoping that she will learn to love him again. Until then, his heart can love for both of them.

Now let’s read some reactions on the Eurovision’s facebook page.

“WTF is wrong with you people! Wrost winning song ever! This song is so boring and make me so sleepy… I would prefer Bulgaria to win or even italy.  There were so many better songs this year. big disappointment”
“This isn’t a talent show it’s all about where you are on the map”

“He is so arrogant. He didn’t even smile, he didn’t even thank everyone who voted for him. All he did was bashing people making songs that actually entertain the audience calling it “fast-food songs”, saying that his song was meaningful. I’m usually happy for the winner, whoever it is, but this one was seriously too self-centered.”

” Boring, suicidal. I just don’t understand. No voice, no rythim or musicality (dull one tone song) no expression, no special text. If only had just 1 of these things i would not criticise it. I found him also very arrogant in his thanks comments saying that music is not fast food but is about feeling it!. Who the hell he thinks he is?. Feeling is not dull and boring per definition!!!!!!”

“So is this acceptable “real” music? Ugh. Still the most ungracious winner in history.”

  • Most people who criticized our song didn’t even know what the lyrics meant.
  • We only have Spain has a neighbor country. Fishes don’t vote.
  • Yes, the song is slow, calm, it can make some people fall asleep, but it don’t make it less of a song just because it has a different style and presentation.
  • He was not arrogant, he was real about what he meant. Doesn’t mean everyone in Eurovision makes fast-food music, but some did…. wanna talk about Germany?!
  • No expression? He was FEELING the song when he was singing it.
  • The Bulgarian kid has a future, he’s only 17, he can win another time. And sure there were many other countries who deserve my love. But this year was for Portugal.
  • Eurovision’s slogan was to celebrate DIVERSITY!

 

What did you think about the portuguese participation? Let me know.

My name is Daniella, and I kick and bite

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Nokia 3310

Everybody is thrilled to get their hands on the new Nokia 3310 that is soon to come out. But is it really worth the hype? I am, I know it’s the remake of the top seller phone from 15 years ago, and it’s improved. But for me, the features that they took out from it it’s not worth to buy it, it’s gonna ruin my memories of the old Nokia. In this post I explain what I love and what I hate in the new Nokia 3310.

LIKES

  • Snake (of course)
  • Battery durability (although my old Nokia 3310 had a lousy battery after a few years of use)
  • Price
  • Buttons

DISLIKES

  • Doesn’t allow to switch cases (actual phone cases)
    • Why is this important to me?! 15 years ago we would bother if our phone fell into the ground and got a little smashed in the corners because we could easily replace the case, and there were such a variety of them. Now,there is no return from a smashed phone. We can still hide it with external cases, but I don’t think this one is gonna have that.
  • NO RINGTONES
    • Where’s my old ringtones? Where’s the monophonic “my immortal”?
  • NO DANCING
    • This isn’t such a big deal, but I used to stand the phone up while listening to ringtones and let it “dance”. You must remember how it rotated from the vibration.

 

Your Way

Fate has been traced
With a charcoal pencil
It can well be erased and changed
And it's not written in the hands

Fate does not hide
Behind any door
You need to search
And deserve

Following this road
It's you who decides your way
If sometimes at a crossroad
You find out you're never alone.

It is a choice that you make
And you can never go back

In the painting that you are going to paint
You quickly realize it
It's you who draws the draft
You choose the colors you want

Fate does not hide
Behind any door
You need to search
And deserve

Following this road
It's you who decides your way
If sometimes at a crossroad
You find out you're never alone.

It is a choice that you make
And you can never go back


O teu caminho - Polo Norte